Why Goals are a Total Bullshit and Habits ARE the Key to Total Life Success.

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Maybe it’s time to stop chasing 6-pack and instead eat right and exercise DAILY???

My thoughts after and learning from “Your Goals Are Overrated” by Mark Manson.

At the end of 2015 I already decided that this year is going to be GOALS-FREE year.

Why? After being on this planet for 28 years (not so long, I know, but still enough time to learn some important lessons and successful strategies to live a happy fulfilled life), I finally realized that goals, even the best ones, SMART goals, specific, with important whys, measurable, with a deadline, emotionally charged, realistic, planned — they don’t work most of the time. They just don’t. No matter how inspiring and “realistic” they are.

Why goals don’t really work and never will in real life?

Few reasons.

  • We don’t really know what actually WILL make us happy. And that is the point of most goals right? To make us happier, to make our life more exciting and enjoyable to live. So what happens if the goal turns out to be not the one that makes happy? Means all the efforts, energy and time we put into it is a waste. What if reaching the goal makes us feel miserable and stressed-out, make us compromise who we are or what we believe in, or make us compromise our true happiness in the present? We live now. Not in the future, when we reach our goal. Future is not guaranteed. Ever. We are not even promised the next moment, leave alone some imagined date in the future, when we are supposedly reached the goal. We can be happy only now. So if the goal makes us sacrifice our true happiness in the now it’s a stupid goal. No matter how inspiring, aspiring and audacious that goal is.
  • Why would we want to invest lots of efforts, energy, time into something, that we will lose soon after getting it?

Goals are not worth having and chasing.

New habits are. New habits that improve our life constantly are worth acquiring and keeping, and working on.

Goals and results are by-products.

That’s why I personally decided to live life choosing at any moment my destination, deciding where I’m going, what I’m improving and working on daily and having a vague, yes, you heard me right, vague goals adjusting them as I go to suit my life, happiness, fulfillment.

I commit daily to my habits, to what James Altucher calls daily practice, taking care of my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health and working on 1% daily improvements.

I don’t have any goals anymore. And I never felt more successful or happy in my entire life. DAILY!

My happiness and satisfaction is NOT in the future. It’s today. It’s now. It’s here.

Mark’s article explains, why it does make much more sense to concentrate on building habits instead of chasing goals, comparing our goal setting VS habit building behavior to 2 mindsets, one that makes people rich (investing mindset) and one that makes people always trying to get rich never really getting there (spending mindset). It explains, why exactly it is so important to concentrate on building habits and how best to do that, AND it gives us 6 habits that are not only worthy to have themselves, but that also produce positive changes in other areas of our life without us doing more work, AND they benefit us more and more the longer we have them, helping us to improve our lives exponentially.

Mark Manson’s Goals Vs. Habits quotes:

  • That’s because it’s better to invest your limited focus and energy on building habits rather than specific goals.

The thing that made the most impact on me was a realization that habits are much better to invest my time and energy into because I AM in fact in total control of my habits, whereas goals and results are not really up to me, AND I never now anyway what result will be the best for me in any particular situation, what will make me feel the happiest and most successful me.

So hey. New Year has just started. It’s this goal setting/resolution making time. Do it in a smart way this time, ok? Quit the goals an invest into habits instead, deciding what will you work on daily this year.

I am somehow sure that you’ll end up happier and more satisfied NOT ONLY with the results, but also with your daily life. With NOW and HERE — the only place we can be truly happy in. (Intended as advice to myself more than anything, but hopefully will help you too).

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